The correct timing isn’t the '◯th time'—it’s the moment when you feel totally at ease and the other person is at the same level, thinking 'I want to 🫶🏻' with you. It can be the first time or the tenth time—it's OK—but the threshold is whether you can speak honestly, there is full consent, and you’ve mentally prepared for contraception and what comes after the relationship.
There isn’t a magic number of dates; the “right” time is when you can talk plainly about STIs, contraception, and expectations without either of you squirming or performing. If you can be that honest, sober, and still want each other, the timing is fine—whether that’s date one or date ten.
There isn’t a magic number of dates; there’s a moment when clarity, desire, and safety finally line up. When you both know what this is, feel genuinely wanted (not pressured), and you trust each other enough to handle the intimacy and the aftermath—that’s the “right” time.